Saturday, January 30, 2016

False Or Favored

I wonder how many unions are forming under false pretenses simply for a gift. Then I wonder how many relationships are ending due to inability or unwillingness to give a gift. 

Be nice and have an honest enjoyable upcoming Valentines Day whether you are giving or getting, stopping or starting, loving or lying. Either way, what goes around will be back shortly.

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Understanding PMDD and Me...

If you know me or have tuned in to my rantings, you know that I am honest and don't mind sharing any and almost everything with you. I stated earlier that I have a host of impairments that limit my social functioning. Which explain why I do some of what I do. I'm not seeking approval, I'm fine with who I am. However, I felt the need to share one of my major impairments that limit and often cause confusion in my day to day actions/activities. Take it or leave it. It's who or how I am and have been for the majority of my life!

Women with PMDD complain of irritability, anger, tension, marked depressed mood, and mood lability (crying spells for no reason, verbal outbursts, or tantrums ) to such a severity that quality of life is seriously compromised. In addition to these symptoms, some women complain of lethargy, sleep disturbance, limited concentration and a host of physical symptoms such as breast tenderness, headaches, joint and muscle pain, bloating and weight gain.

The primary symptoms that distinguish premenstrual dysphoric disorder from other mood disorders (i.e., major depression) or menstrual conditions is the onset and duration of PMDD symptoms -- with symptoms appearing during the week or so before and disappearing within a few days after the onset of menses -- and the level by which these symptoms disrupt daily living tasks. (This diminished level of functioning is generally in great contrast with the same woman's interactions and abilities at other times during the month.)PMDD is like PMS, 10 times multiplied. At least that's an escalated height for me especially if any of the symptoms are provoked or challenged.

The symptoms of PMDD may resemble other conditions or medical problems, such as a thyroid condition, depression, or an anxiety disorder. I happen to experience complications from this disorder, 2 weeks prior to the onset of menses; lasting until the site of flow. It's so identifying because, I will go from extreme negative emotion, to an uplifted silliness within minutes. Those that know me and I often joke, "uh oh, panty check". That's how well WE KNOW ME. I return to a cool fun state of being again until the cycle repeats; every month of every year of my life every since I was about 17. Well that was the first clinical diagnosis.

I am currently 51 and into my second year of full menopause and it hasn't stopped. Although menses has only occurred once per year for the last two years, after about 7 years of pre menopausal symptoms and irregularities, the PMDD continues to rear it's head. I know what it is that makes me seem "crazy" but having to explain it to someone that's new to me and "my way", is frustrating and sometimes embarrassing.

Those that love me for me are familiar with my changes and can accept that it's just part of me. After all, even in this time frame of impairment, I'm still my best self. I'm loved, understood and respected, and I'm good with that!

So again... Fool wit me cuz you cool wit me. Don't fuck wit me cuz you stuck wit me! An open minded compassionate individual will choose to know and hold on to me. I'm worth it!

Monday, January 25, 2016

Just One Girl

I don't know what they like, But I like for you to smell good. However, I won't leave you if you don't. We can work on that together.

I love to be talked to, about anything. As long as we're talking. When that stops, it all stops.

Tell me about your past. Your best friend. What makes you laugh or cry.

If something is wrong inside, tell me; we can share it, I have wrongs also.

I need your patience. Your understanding. I want to meet your family but if I don't, it's ok. I won't let that define us or measure my worth to you. If you don't like your job, That's your decision to stay or leave it. You have my support.

Don't like those drapes? Tell me, your opinion matters and I'd love to hear it.

A lot of relationships are fueled and based upon the opposite of what "one girl" will accept. One sided relationships are unhealthy. They may last a while, however, one or both of you are being short changed.
I've often made comparisons to a past relationship, however, to completely place a current situation in the mode of another, is unfair as well. Each individual deserves their own identity. Sure, recognize and learn from past mistakes, but don't presume that this is that or that is this, unless it really is.

Make new memories and keep your union new and exciting!

Thursday, January 21, 2016

Mmmm vs Hmmm... What is that smell - Repost

Cold doesn't kill everything. So even in this frigid winter season, you must follow procedure.
I love inviting scents. Whether on someones person or within an area. I've taken the time to list some recipe's that promote good scent-ual hygiene and house keeping. You'd be surprised at how many people should see and utilize these tutorial tips. It's not at all a laughing matter, I'm just saying.

I've also listed some tips on Cause and effects of the happy nose invaders

For Your Person
1. Start with a clean body. ie., Bathing, Showering, Brushing and Flossing.

2. Immediately apply scented or non scented skin moisturizer

3. Apply your favorite scent. I am one that likes to smell good even while I sleep. It helps to produce a more peaceful slumber.

For Your Home
1. Begin with a clean home ie., Having every item in its intended place. Assuming all places have been dusted and or polished.

2. Remove all trash. Using a smaller trash receptacle will insure more frequent trips to the outside bins. The larger the trash can, the more time it takes to fill, hence the longer your garbage remains inside, releasing it's ghastly odors.

3. Keep floors swept, vacuumed & mopped.

4. Dishes left over night are an extreme eye sore to humans. However, an invitation to party, to insects and rodents.

5. Dirty Laundry... is Dirty Laundry. You've already determined it was dirty, don't let your guests second the opinion. Get er done!

6. Finish up with scented oil plug-ins, candles and fresh air. Open something; a door, window... weather permitting, every now and then. If only for a few minutes.

If you smell it, so do we
If you drop it, pick it up
If you're done, throw it away
If you spill it, wipe it up &
If you've worn it, wash it out